The bells have rung, the ball has dropped, and we
are now safely into 2018. Everywhere you look om social media, people are
making their New Year’s resolutions and making their
choices for the coming twelve months. Weight loss. Car savings. Buying a house.
All of these are big resolutions and promises to make, but the one thing that
they all have in common is how utterly adult
they all are. When do we even become adults? We get to
eighteen and head off to college, making big waves and choices about our
futures, and yet we don’t feel like adults yet. We get to our mid-twenties, and
we’re getting married and having babies, and yet we still don’t quite feel like
adults who are living lives away from our parents. The reason for this is
because there’s no clear line between feeling young, vital and carefree and
feeling responsible while growing roots for a family.
These grown-up resolutions are great, but they’re
not particularly fun. Adulthood is wonderful for its freedom from parents,
curfews and rules, but when the shackles of being ruled by parents fall off,
other shackles clamp right on. Paying bills, raising
children, making decisions about life insurance and retirement funds – they all
can make you feel weighed down and stressed. We end up longing for the days we
had parents ruling our lives, because all we had to worry about was being a
child. We didn’t have to think about whether to heat or eat because we didn’t
earn enough that month. We don’t have to worry about paying for educational
excursions or making costumes for the latest school play. All we thought about
was when we could stay up a little later because it was almost Christmas, and
when we could go ice skating with our friends. Getting back in touch with the
childhood version of yourself could be exactly what you need in 2018 to throw
off a little of that adult stress and invite a little more fun into your life.
It’s easier to have fun with things when you have children of your own, as they
bring their own piece of magic in their evolving personalities. However, if you
don’t have children, it’s yourself that you have to get back in touch with.
There is absolutely no excuse, either, because even if you didn’t have the best
childhood on the planet, you were still a child.
Children have hopes and dreams. They believe
in magic and mystery and there is fairy dust in their glitter and
kisses can magically heal any graze. The reason children believe in so much
magic is because they have no idea what it is to be stressed. Escaping
adulthood and embracing your inner child has to be something that you give
yourself time to do. So, in 2018, you need to look into how you can escape the
drudgery of adulthood every now and then. We’ve got some tips below to help you
to do exactly that.
Create A
Fun Space
In your home, you make plans to renovate, re-decorate and furnish over and
over until your home is exactly how you want it. Have you followed minimalist
ideals like this, or old-fashioned, like this? Either way, they’re pretty
uniform in terms of their decoration. While uniformity is nice, it’s not bright
or fun or relaxed for the most part. You need to have an area of your home
that’s not all about synchronicity. It can be a corner of a room if you lack
the space, but if you have a small room or den you can use to chill out in, you
should. Add a games console, a reading nook, a refrigerator packed full of your
favourite drinks and snacks. Add somewhere comfortable to sit or lay back, like
the massive beanbag cushions you can find with Fombag. There’s a need for a space to just put
away life’s stresses and enjoy being yourself. Fun is essential for living, and
it isn’t something that you should forget.
Stop
Fretting Over The Weather!
Do you ever do that thing where you check the
weather before you head out for the day? We all do it. Every adult looks
outside, and their mood can be dictated by whether the sun is shining, or the
heavens are opening. It’s time to look outside and smile regardless of what you
have planned for the day. Pull on a pair of galoshes and get out into the rain.
Jump in the puddles and kick up the splashes. Don’t panic if you get muddy
because the only way to get happy when the weather wants to pull you down is to
squish and splash and mess around like you’re a child again. Children don’t
care if they get wet. They don’t care if they jump in a mud puddle and get
their clothes covered in brown splodges. All they care about is giggling! When
was the last time you got caught in the rain and smiled about it?
Get Back
On Your Bicycle.
Do you remember when the most fun times to be had
were on your new bike that you got for your birthday? Firing around the
neighbourhood and seeing all your friends on their new bikes was an absolute
privilege. Well, you probably now spend your time stuck behind the wheel of a
car on a long commute or you’re stuck sardined on public transport. Go to the
garage, or if you haven’t got one now, a local store, and get on your bike! Start
cycling again to work and to the nearby mall. Stick fun stickers on
your helmet and remember what it felt like to be in control of your method of
getting to your destination. You don’t just reconnect with the child version of
you, you get fit at the same time!
Be With
The Kids
When you have children, you can easily get in
touch with your inner child. Booking a vacation to Disneyland is just as
exciting as an adult as it was when you were a child. Heading to the local park
and getting on the swings yourself instead of just pushing the kids can inject
some laughter into your life again. Making the time to turn away from work and
adult stress to get down on the floor and build Lego, play with Playdoh and even just to
talk to your children can turn years back for you. Children have an innocence,
a magic, that adults just don’t get to see anymore. Once you get to know your
children again, you get to know yourself in a way you didn’t realise that you
could. See the world through their eyes, and you can reconnect with the child
you used to be.
A Day In
The Life
Imagine yourself as a twelve-year-old. What music
did you like? What was your favourite film? What was your go-to comfort food?
Whatever the answer to those questions are, take yourself back. Give yourself a
day to step into your DeLorean and relive a day that your twelve-year-old self
would have loved. Dance crazily to the music that you would have listened to.
Watch that film with your favourite snacks and drinks. Read a teen novel that
you were obsessed with and do it all with total abandon. Your life is going to
massively improve when you realise that you can still do all the things that
you did as a child, except without the rules your parents gave you. And there’s
also wine if you want it!
Unplug
The one thing that most people remember about
being a child is the lack of screens. Sure, we nearly all had a
television, a radio and some kind of games console, but mostly we went outside
when the sun came up and went home long enough for food, drinks, and when the
sun went down again. We rarely sponged in front of the television, because
bored children meant our parents found us chores to do. Turn off your
smartphone, tablet and computer. Turn away from the internet and learn to be
without the screen time you rely on so much. Facebook is the empty fridge:
looking inside it every fifteen minutes isn’t going to change anything. Put it
away, go outside and enjoy nature. Go and do something else that makes you
happy and do it with abandon.
Your adult life isn’t necessarily boring, but
it’s far fuller with rules than your childhood ever was. The list above could
be infinite, as there are so many things that your childhood self would be
doing that we no longer do as adults. Hair mascara, crimping and bright blue
mascara aside, childhood was amazing and it’s up to us to continue to find our
inner child and embrace them wholeheartedly. Don’t allow yourself to be bogged
down in adult drama all the time. Adulthood doesn’t have to be so stressful, and
you can choose to see the magic if only you look a little closer.
Great advice. Happy 2018!!! Cheers!!!
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